Don’t we all love a good tear-jerking wedding? It’s one thing for a couple to invite you to witness their union, but watch and listen to each of them say their vows. Please get me a handkerchief!
I’m not the only one who loves weddings, but my favorite part is realizing how far two people who love each other can go to make personalized, eternal wedding vows, then look into each other’s eyes and recite them. What more do we need to know that a couple is in love?
If you’re a groom-to-be and required to write your vows, I know how daunting it can be, especially since wedding planning and responsibilities are looming over the horizon. Even so, this is a call for you to relax because we’ve got your back. We’ve created the ultimate wedding vow how-to-guide, with examples you can garner inspiration from!
By the time you get to the end of this guide, you will be the pro you’re meant to be, so dig in!
How to Write Your Wedding Vows
If you’re bent on writing your wedding vows, there’s one thing you should know. You’ll need structure. And we need to talk about the grammatical structure of your sentences. Far from that- even though it would help. We’re talking about the flow of your marriage vows. Whether you want to write funny wedding vows or traditional wedding vows, here’s what you should consider:
You want to remind your soul mate why you’re together. Paint a picture of the past by telling your partner and audience about a significant event during your courtship. It could be a story about how you met or what they mean to you. You could address your future spouse as your best friend, lover, everything, or the most beautiful soul you’ve ever seen.
It doesn’t matter as long as what you want to say resonates with them and the relationship you’ve had so far. Setting the scene for your wedding vows before exchanging rings is vital because this sets the tone and atmosphere for your wedding ceremony. It will help your guests or audience understand why this moment is essential and why you are speaking these vows to your life partner.
Here’s how you can set the scene:
- Start with a poem or a quote that speaks to your commitment to be a faithful husband. A good example is, “I carry your heart with me, I carry it in my heart,” by E.E. Cummings.
- You could also describe the natural wedding setting and why you chose it as a couple. For instance, you could say, “Standing here on this beautiful beach, surrounded by the ocean and the sand, feels like the perfect setting to make a lifetime commitment to the love of my life.”
- Remind your partner that you’re the luckiest person by mentioning how you met and grew up together. Say something like, “I remember the day we met. It was like fate brought us together. And now, as we stand here today, I can’t imagine my life without you.”
- Share a personal story that highlights a particular moment in your relationship. For instance, you could say, “When I think back on all the adventures we’ve had together, the laughter and the tears, I know that you are the person I want to spend forever with.”
Be thoughtful, personal, and heartfelt when you set the scene for your romantic wedding vows. Make sure the vows reflect your love story and commitment to your partner.
Mention What You Love About Your Partner
You now have to highlight the things you appreciate about your favorite person. Take time to express your love and affection and tell them how special they are to you. Remember to be specific and speak from the heart.
Rather than making a general statement like, “I love you,” try saying something more meaningful like, “I love the way your eyes light up when you laugh,” or “I admire your determination and hard work.” Try to use words like “soulful amazement” to help convey the depth of your feelings and the special connection you share.
For example, you could say, “I am in soulful amazement at the person you are, and I am so grateful to have you as my lifelong partner.” Remember that these are just sample vows, and you should ensure that your traditional wedding vows reflect your relationship and your feelings for your partner.
Communicate How You Feel About Your Partner
It is crucial to communicate the fine details of your relationship and express how you feel about your partner. Doing this helps to personalize your vows and make them more meaningful to you and your life partner.
Here are some excellent examples of how to communicate how you feel about your partner:
- “Since I met you, I have become a better person, and I am so grateful for the love and support you have given me. You have a golden heart.”
- “Our relationship is special to me because we can make each other laugh even on the toughest days.”
- “I value the trust and understanding we have built, which makes our bond so strong.”
Make sure you’re honest, heartfelt, and specific when expressing your feelings about your relationship on your wedding day. For example, you could say, “I love how we can finish each other’s sentences and always know what the other is thinking. I promise to always listen to you, support you and grow with you.”
Remember that your wedding day is the most memorable moment of your entire life. It’s time to express your love and commitment to your partner and to make it unique and memorable as you pass on to married life.
List Your Promises
The next step is to list your promises to your fiancé. This is the heart of your vows and expresses your commitment and dedication to your partner. When making promises, be specific and make promises that you can realistically keep. We’re all imperfect people so try not to go overboard. Instead, include 3-5 promises in your vows.
We know these are joyous times, and you can’t wait for the exchange of rings. First, however, it’s crucial to ask yourself vital questions. What kind of husband do you strive to be? Am I willing to support my spouse? What values do I bring to the relationship? Do I want to be a helpful husband or get leadership skills?
Here are some examples of promises that you can include in your wedding vows:
- “I promise to be your faithful and devoted partner, in sickness and health, for richer or for poorer, until death do us part.”
- “I promise to always listen to you and support you in all your endeavors.”
- “I promise to be a loving and responsible husband and always put you and our family first.”
- “I promise to build a life with you that is full of love, laughter, and happiness.”
- “I promise to stand by you and to be your rock through any distressing time.”
Wrap it Up with Love
You’re almost there. It’s now time to express your love and commitment to your partner. Whether you’re having a Christian wedding, a cultural wedding, or a Jewish wedding, including heartfelt statements of love is a personal way to close your wedding vows. This is a special moment that your future spouse will remember as they get into married life. Some examples of love notes you could include in your wedding vows are:
- “I promise to love you today, tomorrow, forever, and as long as I live and breathe.”
- “I vow to be your partner in life, your best friend, and your one true love.”
- “I will cherish and honor you always and forever.”
- “With all my heart and soul, I choose you today and every day.”
- “I love you more than words can say, and I promise to spend the rest of my life proving it to you.”
Remember that a love note is a personal expression, so you should be true to yourself and your feelings. Also, remember to practice your cultural, personal, or traditional wedding vows before the wedding day so you will be comfortable with the words you are saying in front of your loved ones.
Traditional Wedding Vows for Him
Now that you’ve followed the guide, it’s time to check out some wedding vow examples. It doesn’t matter whether you’re having a simple wedding, a destination, or a Jewish wedding. These sample wedding vows are for the man that’s traditional at heart. But, of course, modern couples can also get inspiration from these vows, so check them out!
- “I, [Your Name], take you, [Partner’s Name], to be my lawfully wedded spouse. I vow to love, honor, and cherish you through life’s joys and sorrows. I promise to be your rock, your shelter, and your guide. I promise to be the best partner that I can be. I will be your faithful partner, confidant, and your best friend. I will always be there for you, in good times and bad, sickness and health.”
- “I am in awe of your beauty, both inside and out. Your intelligence, kindness, and wonderful humor have captured my heart; I am forever yours. I promise to be your best friend and confidant, to share my thoughts, feelings, and life possessions with you, and to always be there for you.”
- “I promise to stand by your side, through a happy marriage and bad times, in sickness and health. I will be your faithful partner, your confidant, your best friend, and your rock, and I will always be there for you, to listen, to laugh, to cry, to support, and to be a constant source of love and comfort.”
- “I vow to always to support your dreams and aspirations. I promise to be your constant source of love and encouragement, to help you reach your goals, and to be your partner in every sense of the word.”
Non-traditional Vows for Him
Even if you’re into formal weddings, you might want your vows to speak to who you are. Even civil weddings can offer you the perfect chance to say exactly what’s in your heart. Non-traditional wedding vows are suitable for millennial couples who want something different or a little more than religious ones.
Below are some excellent examples.
- “I, [Your Name], take you, [Partner’s Name], to be my partner for life. I vow to love you in the most unconventional ways, dance in the rain with you, and make memories that will last a lifetime. I promise to be there for you in the good times and the bad, to hold your hand through the joys and the struggles.”
- “You are my haven, my sanctuary, and my home. I promise to love you in the morning, afternoon, and evening. You light up my world and make every day worth living. I vow to cherish every moment, from big to small ones.”
- “With you by my side, I can conquer anything. I promise to stand by your side and be your support system. I vow to be your rock, partner, and best friend. I will always be there for you, no matter what life throws our way.”
- “With this ring, I take you as my partner for life. I give you my heart, love, and devotion for all eternity. I promise to love you in the most unconventional ways, make every day an adventure, and be your rock, shelter, and guide.”
- “I promise to love you with all my heart, to be your faithful companion, and to cherish every moment we spend together. I vow to be your everything, your home, your shelter, and your refuge. You are my coin in the fountain, my wish come true, and I will love you forever.”
Now you know how to create your wedding vows. We hope the examples we gave you are enough inspiration to create something your future spouse will cherish and hold close to their heart for eternity.
Happy wedding day!